We've all been there – we're in a job we hate but we continue to work there, complaining about how awful our boss is, or how long our hours are, or how boring the work is. Or it could be a relationship: stuck with someone we know we shouldn't be with because they don't treat us right, or the love isn't there anymore or we just aren't happy – yet we don't leave. It may be a crappy living situation: stuck on a family member's couch, or with a horrible roommate, or living in an awful area. Yet we do nothing about it but complain and lament about how much better life could be.
One of my favourite quotes which I often remind myself is: if you don't like it change it! Yes, sometimes it's easier said than done but at least try. The first step is usually the hardest, but it's a step – a potential start to something better.
A lot of the time, the reason the first step never happens (or happens and then is given up on) is because of FEAR. Fear that we're not good enough, fear of failure, fear of change. But we need to push past this. I'm sure you've all heard the saying "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take". That is REAL LIFE honey! #truth
So what can we do to push past our fears and achieve our goals, change our situation and get s**t done??
1. I believe that I am a BOSS: Although I have doubts occasionally like everyone else, I really truly believe in myself and my capabilities and you should believe in yours too because that confidence often translates to achievements
2. I will stop making excuses and procrastinating: "I can't look for a new job right now because the markets aren't great", "I can't start working out now because it's cold outside", "I don't want to break up with him because he needs me", "I'll start eating healthy tomorrow because I'm just really in the mood for comfort food right now". These are nothing but excuses – and poor ones for that matter. We make ourselves feel better by delaying action and coming up with reasons why it can't work. Let's stop talking and start doing.
3. I remind myself that I might fail but it won't kill me: Failure is a part of life. I mean wouldn't it be awesome if we never failed at anything? But real talk, it is what we do after we fail that really defines us: sit there in despair or get up and get back on it. There's absolutely no shame in taking the time to lick our wounds, and in fact that time is great because it can be used to reflect on what went wrong and why, and what can be done to improve. Besides it gives you great material for interviews where they ask "tell me about a time when you failed" 😀
Those are my three things, what are yours?